![]() For others, it’s taking time off for a coffee date with a friend who makes us feel good about ourselves. For some of us, self-care a solo morning walk before settling down at your desk. Self-care isn’t spoiling ourselves it’s taking care of our needs. We can also learn how to parent ourselves, and give ourselves all the things we never received as a child. Naming the feeling is the first step to coping with the feeling. Take the time to stop and feel what you’re feeling. We need to learn how to get in touch with our emotions. ![]() ![]() Without our mother’s feedback, we didn’t have the reinforcement needed to develop self-awareness. By letting go of the less-than-ideal image, we can recreate our self-image. We need to realize that the fact that our mother was unable to build our self-image in a positive way was not our fault. Our concept of self was built through the way our mother interacted with us. Therapy can help your child-self express the pain of being unloved, ignored, shunned, ridiculed, and even victimized. The first step is letting yourself say, “Ouch” - and more - if you need to. So how do we get the balance that will heal us? Express the pain While remaining mired in the negative feelings may make us feel temporarily right, in the long run, we actually lose out. Healing from the mother wound is a balance between acknowledging negative feelings such as anger and resentment and recognizing that we may need to forgive our mother. Relationship difficultiesĪdults with the mother wound have difficulty forming and maintaining the positive relationships that we all crave for because they’ve never learned to trust. These things could include numbing activities like alcohol and drugs. Instead, they turn to things outside of themselves for comfort. Without the awareness of how to manage their feelings, children and later adults never develop the ability to self-soothe. The child doesn’t need to suppress negative feelings, because they have a way to manage them. Lack of emotional awarenessĪ mother who is present for their child is able to mirror their child’s feelings, label those feelings, and help them to manage the feelings. Without this basic belief in themselves, children struggle to get a sense of self and to believe in themselves. Secure attachment makes a child feel that they matter. Let’s see why this could happen: Low self-esteem
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